Personal Growth: Changing Your Perspective of Reality

Carol_Talbot

Personal Growth: Changing Your Perspective of Reality

Posted 24 Feb 2019

Mind & Body Health

Carol Talbot

Personal Growth: Changing Your Perspective of Reality

Are you the kind of person who would see a glass of water as half full or half empty? Do you experience life as a challenge to be endured or as an opportunity to grow?

Let’s say you go to a party with a couple of friends. The next morning you call one of your friends who proceeds to tell you how awful it was; the music was terrible, the caterers got it all wrong and the people were dull. You then call another friend who also accompanied you to the party and they tell you how much they enjoyed the party and they even asked for the number of the caterers so they could use them at a future event! Is one of your friends lying? Well actually, they are both right.

Swiss psychiatrist, Carl Gustav Jung said that whatever you perceive outside yourself in other people, situations or events is simply a projection of yourself. That means that there is never a problem with a person a situation or an event, it’s simply your perception of the person, situation or event.  The challenge is that your perception and the way you choose to view the world is colored by your values, beliefs, culture, upbringing, language, memories and experiences.

Here’s two simple ways to begin to change your perspective on reality!

1. Be a quality shopper

It’s easy to miss something you are not looking for and it’s an unfortunate fact that we often pay attention to what’s wrong rather than what’s right. Maybe you notice when others are late for work yet forget to care or acknowledge when colleagues stay late to meet a deadline.

Are you noticing and appreciating the positive behaviour of those you spend time with?

I’d like to encourage you to be a quality shopper. After all, when you go to the supermarket do you look for the fruit and vegetables that are discoloured, over-ripe and going off? Of course not, you pick the fruit and vegetables that are ripe, juicy and tasty. So be a quality shopper in life and look for the best!

2. Your world is your mirror

The late Steven Covey said ‘we do not see the world as the world is, we see the world as we are.’ So just for a moment, consider what does your life look like right now – are you happy? Is it the way you want it?

Your outer world acts as a beautiful mirror to what you choose to think and feel. In fact, your outer world is a good indicator that you may need to change your thoughts.

Wendy is an experienced coach and one of her clients, let’s call him Peter in the interest of confidentiality, had a challenging relationship with his father. Peter hated him, and felt that his father was arrogant and controlling. His feelings about his father were so strong that Peter did not even want his own children to get to know their grandfather. Wendy simply reminded him that what he perceived and saw in his father was simply a reflection of himself. Peter was shocked as he began to realize that he was actually behaving just like his father. By not allowing his sons to get to know their grandfather he was also being arrogant and controlling. It was a huge wake-up call for Peter.

When you push your problems away from yourself onto other people, events, circumstances and situations, you are also pushing away the solutions.  It’s just another form of making excuses. So stop making excuses, stop projecting it outside yourself. Bring the problem back inside you, and there you can tackle it and change it.

Remember, a great deal of what you perceive as going on out there in the world, actually isn’t. You have the ability to change how you observe your world as well as the people and situations in it, which ultimately leads to your own growth and evolution.

 

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DanaAB says:

2 months 2 weeks ago
Not everyone wants to change their perspective on reality. Some of us actually like our reality :).

Carol_Talbot says:

2 months 1 week ago
Then that's great!

Darnell says:

2 months 2 weeks ago
Dear Carol - do you think we are born to see the 'glass half full or empty' or is that a choice we make in our lives? reason I ask is I've got family and friends who have everything and yet never seem to be happy, and family and friends who have very little, and yet are very content. This question has been in my head since my childhood. Cheers, Darnell

Carol_Talbot says:

2 months 1 week ago
Hello Darnell, thanks for your comment. My belief is that we can be born with the imprint of karma from previous lifetimes and the patterns and programs from our ancestral line. On top of that, between the age of 0-7 we are like a walking sponge, picking up the patterns, behaviors and programs from parents, schooling, environment etc. In addition, societal programming comes through television, social media, what we read and the beliefs taught to us which includes the indoctrination that we will be happy if we have more money, material goods, a better job/position.... more, more, more ... and this leads to the glass always being half full. And as you have observed, the people who appear to have everything feel hollow and empty inside. This is a pivotal time for all of us to do deep work to clear the ancestral patterns and challenge the programs we have been taught and step into a new way of being!

Mariam says:

2 months 3 weeks ago
Such an uplifting message to remind us all to constantly strive to see good in our lives. Positive thought can bring about positive outcomes. Thankyou for sharing Carol! Best, Mariam

Carol_Talbot says:

2 months 3 weeks ago
Thank you for your comment Mariam. Sometimes it is easier said than done to remain positive and see the good in every person and situation... AND when you do choose to run from that pattern it impacts not only yourself but everyone else around you too. Take care.